I have a topic that is in the news frequently, and has always been a serious concern around the world. Shootings in various schools, colleges, malls exacerbated by Bullying. Sadly, there is no law against it. No state bill, No federal bill, and workplaces are more concerned with protecting their pocketbook than protecting you.
What many of us face everyday at school, at work, or around your city in different situations can be overwhelming in the sense that you are dealing with Satan at its worst day in and day out. The fear is what will the bully say to me or what will he/she do? The challenge we all face is not what is coming out of the bully's mouth, or what they physically do BUT how we handle it everyday. It is always easier said than done when someone says, "Stand up for yourself." or "Don't let it affect you".
The best thing is prayer. What?!?! I know, but the reality of a situation can only get much worse if you head into it with negative energy, attitude, or thoughts. Prayer. Be patient, be compassionate, but Be Strong. And the kind of strength you need... DOES NOT come from within. Hear me when I say this, it comes from ABOVE. God will not leave you, God will not fail you, and you have to call upon him everytime you're being bullied. Bullies are just bullies. At the end of the day, in the dark, the only person they have to bully is themselves. Think about it. A bully projects his/her many insecurities to one person or many people in order to feel taller, bigger, more important, exert their control, and/or to prove something. What a bully does to you or says to you is not important. God wants YOU to be unafraid around a bully. What is important, is how you handle the situation and the bully. Oh, of course, many things are easier said than done. But, once you realize that you alone cannot fight physically or mentally a bully, than you will most certainly realize that you need God. All bullies are not the same. Different looks, ages, mental states, etc... Sometimes, you don't even realize you are being bullied. Maybe, you experience positive and negative situations with this person and it confuses you. We all at some point have either been a bully or been bullied. Yes, we all. The whole world. Unless you live under a rock or on an island.
Never sacrifice who you are just because someone else has a problem with it. - jbt
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Bullying FACTS:
160,000 American Youths Skip School in Fear of Bullying
70 or 80% of Americans report rudeness and incivility at work
41% of workers having been psychologically harassed at work at some point
____________________________________________I'm positive even less than that have reported to their higher ups at work.-jbt
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Bullying Facts cont. ~~~~~~~
Imbalance of power - Typically those who engage in bully-like behaviors use their strength, popularity or power to harm, control or manipulate others. They will usually target those who are weaker in size or may have a difficult time defending themselves.
Intent to cause harm - A bully is a person who does not do things by accident. The bully intends to physically or emotionally injure a person or group of persons.
Repetition - Typically incidents of bullying are not a one-time thing. Bullies target the same person or group over and over again.
Typical signs of bully in children and adults:
Becomes frequently violent
Has trouble controlling anger
Is manipulative and controlling of others and situations
Is quick to blame others
Does not accept responsibility for their actions
Needs to win or be the best at everything
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In our past as children, it was at school. In our adult lives, it's at the workplace. -jbt
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Work shouldn't HURT. |
Excerpt from link here (credits).... Read this below:
Tragic consequences
Avoiding a workplace bully might seem easier than avoiding a school bully, given that employees can quit their jobs. But workers get caught in a cycle of stress, Namie said. An online survey of targeted workers by the WBI found that they put up with the abuse for an average of 22 months.
The stress of the bullying may itself lead to bad decision-making, Namie said. A 2009 study in the journal Science found that stressed-out rats fail to adapt to changes in their environment. A portion of the stressed rats' brains, the dorsomedial striatum, actually shrunk compared with that region in relaxed rats. The findings suggest that stress may actually re-wire the brain, creating a decision-making rut. The same may occur in bullied workers, Namie said.
"This is why a person can't make quality decisions," he said. "They can't even consider alternatives. Just like a battered spouse, they don't even perceive alternatives to their situations when they're stressed and depressed and under attack."
Sometimes this cycle ends with tragedy. Namie works as an expert legal witness on bullying. In one upcoming case, he said, a woman put up with daily barrages of screaming abuse from her boss for a year. By the end, she was working 18-hour days, trying to shield the employees under her from her boss' tyranny, Namie said. Finally, she and several of her co-workers put together a 25-page complaint to human resources. Nothing happened, until she was called in for a meeting with senior management. The woman knew she would be fired for making the complaint, Namie said.
"Rather than allowing herself to be terminated, she bought a pistol, went to work, left three suicide notes, and she took her own life at work," he said."She was like that rat stuck in a rut," he added. "She didn't see any alternative at that point."
While all workplace-bullying cases are not so extreme, it does seem to be a common problem, said Sandy Herschcovis, a professor of business administration at the University of Manitoba who studies workplace aggression. Between 70 and 80 percent of Americans report rudeness and incivility at work, Herschcovis told LiveScience. Fewer are systematically bullied, she said, but the best estimate puts the number at about 41 percent of American workers having been psychologically harassed at work at some point.
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The deck is stacked greatly against the targets. The best solution is not always the easiest solution. There are no laws against workplace bullying, but there are several states who have pending bills in 2012.-jbt
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| BE the CHANGE |
For employers it's a problem, too. Often, it is the least skilled who attack the best and brightest workers because of the perceived threat they imagine. When the perpetrator has the power to deprive her or his target of a livelihood, and the economic and health security the job represents, bullying is an abuse of authority. U.S. employers are loathe to stop bullying, let alone acknowledge its existence. -- excerpt from...(credits)
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Bible Verse of the Day:
Even though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I fear no evil, for You are with me; Your rod and Your staff, they comfort me. Psalm 23:4
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